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Cheating husband caught by listening device: 'I listened to it all'

By Jo Abi|

A woman who suspected her husband was cheating on her lived with her suspicions for months before she was able to confirm his infidelity. She has taken to Mumsnet to describe her continuing distress, explaining how she caught him and why she decided to stay with him.

"I don't even know where to start as my life seems so far away from what I had thought my life would be when I got married 29 yrs ago," she shared. "I found out three years ago that my husband was having an affair, he was with this mistress four years at that stage and I stupidly thought I could change him and that he would be forever grateful to me for giving him a chance."

She said she couldn't function following the discovery for "a long while" but was able to pull herself together, although she admitted she still couldn't trust him.

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She has taken to Mumsnet to describe her continuing distress. (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Then, just before Christmas, she said she found a second phone belonging to him with "no sim but it was connected up to Facebook."

"I couldn't believe it when I read messages from another woman asking him over to her house for sex and he saying 'he can't wait,'" she recalls. "I confronted him but of course he said they were only fooling and that he never went to her house so with Christmas coming I just tried to forget about it and concentrated on Christmas and having a happy house for the children."

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She discovered her husband's secret phone and read messages between him and another woman. (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

She began noticing he was "on his phone a lot" and in particular on What's App. When asked if he was still in contact with the woman she said he "got very defensive and said I was terrible to ask him such a thing."

It was then that she decided to take action.

"I knew he would never be honest so I put a voice recorder under the seat of his car and low and behold there I heard the whole sex session (this was with the most recent woman)," she explained.

The woman said she "listened to it all and it's like a switch has gone off in my head and suddenly I don't want him anymore."

"I knew he would never be honest so I put a voice recorder under the seat of his car."?

"He was meeting up with her while I was at night work and met her three time in the one week," she continued. "He doesn't know that I know about this yet as I'm not sure how to confront him. I want him to leave the house as I'm never ever taking him back."

Her distress clear, she asked Mumsnet users for advice on how to move forward.

"I don't even know why I'm writing this," she shared. "I feel such a fool for believing him the first time and now I can see only a lonely life ahead of me. By the way I'm 50 yrs old and have been with my husband since I was 17. I feel I wasted all my good years with a man who thought very little of me while I was very much in love with him. How could I have been so blind!!"

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She confirmed her husband's infidelity by planting a listening device in his car. (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Mumsnet users rallied behind the woman, assuring her she will be okay if she finally leaves her cheating husband.

"You are worth more than this, he's lucky that he got a second and a third chance if you count the time before Christmas," one wrote.

Another shared: "This isn't your fault. He has gaslighted you. Make a plan. See a solicitor. If you have children go on entitled to and see if you are entitled to any benefit help. One step at a time you can do it. I felt like you did over an emotional affair. He blamed me when I questioned him. I also lost trust and felt stupid.

"He left last year after I said no more. It's not always easy but I'm happier and life is simpler without the games. Good luck.?"

"Get rid of him, why waste more of your life on this arse hole. It's hard to leave, but not as hard as living like you are"

One said: "Now that you have made the decision to get rid of him, do it in your own time. Get legal advice, sort out finances and tell him when you are good and ready."

"This is awful OP. I am so sorry you've had this shock and hope you get lots of support here, it must be so hard. What a level of betrayal," another commented.

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