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4 types of tantrums and how to manage them

By Kimberly Gillan | Presented by Childrens Panadol|

A toddler chucking a wobbly will challenge the most patient of parents.

But with a bit of forward-planning and some strategies in your back pocket, you may be able to ride through these common meltdowns a little more calmly.

1. The over-tired tantrum

It's a brave parent facing a child who has skipped a nap, had a late night or risen far before the birds. Any rationality can quickly evaporate as they start hating on the colour of their blueberries or yesterday's favourite T-shirt.

Psychologist Donna Cameron says the best strategy is the "planned ignore" where you give no attention to the behaviour.

"In this state, your child does not have the mind or power to listen to any words จC in fact, anything you say or try will most likely frustrate them even more," she explains.

"Calmly remind the child that they are okay and try distract them with music that they like or a favourite toy. Once they are calm, a long hug will often be the best medicine to relax them and then hopefully rest will come."

2. The hangry (hungry-angry) tantrum

As much as you know a yoghurt or banana will balance the blood sugars, by the time they've crossed the hunger threshold, they'll often refuse to eat what you're offering.

"Allowing some choices can assist with this tantrum, giving your child autonomy to decide on some food for the meal will excite them to eat," Cameron says.

"Letting them feed themselves with finger food can be helpful. If your child still will not eat, take the food away and try it again about an hour later."

3. The "I won't do what you're asking" tantrum

From chucking food to refusing to help pack up, toddlers can be very strong-willed when pushing boundaries.

"Tantrums are not signs of 'bad behaviour', they're a way for children to communicate," Cameron explains.

"They are completely normal and about your child's inability to communicate their frustrations and needs at this young age."

That said, she suggests firm consequences if they're refusing to be helpful. "Repeat the task once and explain the outcome if it is not achieved," she says.

"This will allow your child to start making choices in their world."

4. The "I want that toy/treat!" tantrum

Whether it's their sibling's favourite snuggly or a lollipop at the supermarket counter, these tantrums can often be the most aggressive.

Cameron urges parents to stand your ground even if it means the tantrum will continue longer than ideal.

"Be as consistent as you possibly can with following through with the 'no', knowing that your little person is watching you and learning for the future," she says.

"Children are very smart, and they will quickly learn their parent's moods and what they need to do to push them to breaking point to get that 'yes'."

It may be worth following up with a consequence, such as quiet time or time out so they can calm down in a safe environment.

"You are educating them at this early age that they can't always get what they want," Cameron adds. "This learning will help them in their future relationships."

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