Zoe Marshall's 'triggering' discovery after son's schoolyard concern
By Zoe Marshall|
I don't know if your kids have been affected by this new moon eclipse situation, but our household definitely has been.
It's really tricky when kids are going through developmental stages and you're wondering, 'Is this ever gonna end? What can I do to support them, or is it the moon?'
We just reach out and long for any answer to make us feel like we can survive this.
My daughter is currently going through separation anxiety. She doesn't want to have her naps, she doesn't want to go down to bed, and she's smart enough to use all of those excuses. It really pulls at the heartstrings.
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It's hard to know when to put a boundary in and when just to lie on her floor and hold her hand and be there because she needs me.
My son is at primary school and, as they say, as kids grow so do the problems.
It's been a really interesting time for him. He's so emotional and intuitive and able to express himself.
He's been saying a lot, "Mum, I feel happy on the outside, but sad on the inside." I thought that was the most incredible explanation for a child to express emotions.
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He was saying, "Sometimes it's hard because I make up my own rules to my games. And then people don't want to play those rules or those games."
My heart broke for him, because I know what it's like to feel like people don't understand you and maybe don't want to play with you.
I remember spending a huge chunk of my primary school time alone in the school library every lunch. When he told me that, I just had this kneejerk reaction, thinking, 'I'll just homeschool you or wrap you up and cuddle you.'"
But obviously that is not the answer.
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I am feeling big feelings because of my own history, but he has to navigate this and he'll sort it out.
He'll know that if he wants to play with other kids, you have to meet in the middle and share ideas and rules, and come together to take on other people's plans and ideas as well.
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It's a part of growing up, but it doesn't stop it being triggering and activating in the body when you've gone through that yourself.
We want to make our children's lives so much easier, but at the same time, it is such a disservice to them when they have to navigate this big huge world without us.
And it does start now. It starts when they're little.
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