We are about to get to know each other a whole lot more. Like, loads more.
But I think this is an important thing to share.
I had to go down the IVF path for my gorgeous, now three-year-old daughter, Edie, and am now pregnant with my second IVF baby.
My miracle babies.
At 31, I found out that having children the natural, old-fashioned way was not going to be an option for me.
Needless to say, being young and healthy as I was, this was a huge shock.
I was lucky there was at least an explanation for my infertility, for so many women this is unexplained.
The short version is that I don＊t ovulate or get a period, and I haven＊t for a very long time 每 strange but true.
The part of my brain that sends the message to my body to let it know it＊s time to ovulate just doesn't want to play ball.
My brain has just thrown up its arms and said, "I'm done here". Lazy really.
Not even six months of medication and injections three times a day could bring on ovulation.
After being poked and prodded more times than a chook on Christmas Day, it was evident that the only option left for my partner James and I, was IVF.
This wasn't something I ever considered I would need to do.
I thought it was my given right as a woman to have a baby, but the road for us wasn't going to be quite so straightforward.
I had heard stories about how tough IVF can be on your body and your relationship, not to mention your mental health.
I thought I was prepared for how hard it was going to be.
But, as it turns out, I had no idea.
I should point out here that everyone's IVF experience is different and unique to their situation.
Many don't find it disruptive to their lives.
Some need to give themselves an injection once a day, or even once a week, but for others it's a tad more involved and can be up to three times a day.
I was in the later bracket.
At any given time, I was taking 12 tablets a day, injecting myself three times a day, wearing two oestrogen patches, and inserting things in my private regions four times a day.
Oh, and I should add, as you are inserting things in your lady parts, you are required to lay down for half an hour after this 每 not helpful when you have that small thing in your life called a job!
Finding time to stop what you＊re doing and lay down for half an hour four times a day at specific times ain't always easy.
I wished there was more I could have read about what IVF was "really" like, not the medical or scientific explanations, but someone to tell me the little things that not even your IVF nurse will tell you.
So, if you have found yourself going down the IVF path, here is what I wish I'd known:
My first foray into IVF, while I was taking more drugs than I did for my second time, I wasn't at all affected by the hormones.
This time around? Moody, emotional cow should sum it up.
I would cry at nothing and everything. The smallest things would set me off and I could cry all day.
All I can suggest here is support.
I was reluctant to tell too many people at first but?I am glad that both times I did tell those in my inner circle because I needed their support, and odds are, you will too.??
You will want to kill people who suggest you try acupuncture because they know a friend of a friend whose sister it worked for
Or even worse, those people who tell you maybe you should stop trying and it will work.
Try not to harm anyone and keep all sharp objects out of your reach.
You may even need a chaperone for social events.
But keep in mind, it's often hard for people to know what to say 每 and they really are just trying to help.
Your sex life will pretty much be non-existent
You may just have to accept this.
There are two weeks in each cycle where you're told to refrain from intercourse, but even when you are "allowed" to, it＊s tricky.
You're constantly wearing panty liners (sorry, I hate those two words) and there are things that need to be inserted before you go to bed (gels and pessaries) and you'll need to lie still for half-an-hour after this is done (read: sleep).
So, in other words, none of it is sexy or conducive for any frisky business.
Physical conception no longer has anything to do with intimacy with your partner.
My mum was actually there with me when both my babies were conceived 每 not many grandparents can say that.
Or would want to say that, come to think of it!
Your work life will be affected
I would like to think no one at work knew what I was going through because I handled it all like a pro＃but I doubt if this was the case.
I needed to leave at certain times each morning to secretly inject myself in the bathroom.
I recommend telling your manager/boss, they will understand, and it will take the pressure off.
Bloating and weight gain
You will bloat like a balloon.
This IS physically possible, trust me.
It's like some cruel twist of fate that you actually look pregnant but you are not.
My advice? Floaty dresses work a treat 每 and don't stress about it, it's not permanent.
And while we're on this topic, be prepared for some weight gain, too.
This is mainly due to fluid retention.
Try and remember that what your body is doing is incredible so don't worry about this in the scheme of things.
Although I am sure the comfort food had something to do with it in my case.
Eat all of the comfort food all of the time. You've earnt it.
I hope this helps you. The disappointment when a cycle doesn't work is nothing short of heartbreaking.
But, you won't for a second give up, because you can't.
You know it works, there are so many success stories.
I know because I am one.
It will all be worth it when you get to hold that incredibly longed-for baby in your arms and smell that delicious newborn head.
The process is tough, that's for sure. But hang in there because so are you.
Parts of this originally appeared on showandtellonline.com.au and has been republished with permission